I find it very challenging to consistently communicate effectively and non-judgmentally about those issues that passionately concern me. In a recent blog post I wrote about my friend who didn’t want me to say anything about her McDonald’s lunch (not that I was going to); but, what if I had such great communication skills that I could share information with people that they did want, even though they might not realize it? What if, without judgment, I could provide useful information and hopefully some inspiration that would be welcomed?
I became a humane educator largely because it is such an energizing and heartening form of changemaking. Usually, students are eager for information about the challenges we face and the effects of their choices in meeting those challenges. But talking to friends and family is different, and I generally avoid bringing up issues that might lead to defensiveness or discomfort.
But I don’t think this is a good solution. I think I can do better. And I think the answer lies in recognizing the subtle impact of my comments and words; listening more than I speak; asking questions because I want to learn from the other person; and letting go of any agenda to change someone else. This, I think, would represent MOGO communication.