Wednesday, February 24, 2010

Must We Struggle, Part 2: My Cat, My Dogs and Me

In my last post, I wrote about William James, Star Trek, and the curious need to struggle toward achievement. I live with a cat named Sir Simon. He is content to sleep most of the day, move from one sunny spot to another as the day progresses, eat at designated times, and get petted as his mood dictates.

Periodically, I observe him and wish I could be content with such a life. I can’t even nap, let alone sleep 20 hours in the day, and I feel guilty lazing in bed on the weekend past a certain hour. It seems to me that my cat has never once experienced guilt and has barely a worry, yet I feel guilt daily and worry incessantly. I envy Sir Simon. I envy his ease of being, his lack of angst, his serenity.

In my last post, I left off wondering aloud what we would struggle to achieve were we to eradicate the great problems that afflict our world and were to live without greed, violence, oppression and cruelty toward others. I suspect many people reading this blog find this question perplexing. Plenty of people have no interest in “struggle” or “productivity,” per se, but rather pursue a livelihood in order to live comfortably and are content with the fruits of modern society. So perhaps it’s just me.

But I don’t think so. It seems that it’s at least partially in our nature – though not solely, as different cultural norms across the globe reveal – to seek and pursue goals and to find the sort of rest that makes my cat content dull, enervating, and ultimately depressing. Beyond our need to work to buy the products that keep us alive, I believe we need to work for our contentment and sense of accomplishment, just like my dog Elsie. Unlike Sir Simon, Elsie would go berserk without things to do, like train for treats, run after Ruby (another one of our dogs), and find smelly things to roll in and share. She delights in a job. Resting is fine, but only after a good workout.

An old friend once had a philosophy professor in college tell him not to “confuse complacency with serenity.” I wonder, is serenity more often a byproduct of work well done, goals achieved, and values embodied? Must we ultimately struggle to find serenity?

I welcome your thoughts.


Zoe Weil, President, Institute for Humane Education
Author of Most Good, Least Harm, Claude and Medea, and Above All, Be Kind

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2 comments:

Caroline Hess said...

For me, serenity does indeed come from work well done, goals achieved, and values embodied. But, those things don't necessarily mean struggle. Even when work is hard or unappealing, (as long as it doesn't conflict with my values), by centering my attention on the moment,a sense of calm purpose comes over my actions. No matter what I am doing --sleeping in on the weekend, playing with the dog, cats, rabbits, or friends, fixing a meal, or working at a tough job, if I honor the moment with my full attention, peace and serenity come naturally. I try everyday to leave behind worry, guilt, and thoughts of past and future that keep me trapped in unproductive mind games. It's not always easy because my thoughts seem to actively seek out ways to get me to think about past wrongs (mine and others) and to postpone my happiness and contentment until some future event/achievement/goal is reached. I am finding that serenity comes most easily when I can create a quiet space away from the endless chattering in my head. Letting go of mental "what ifs" and "if onlys" brings me right to the here and now and helps me focus on whatever I am doing -- be it having fun or working. I'm not always successful at non-thinking, but when I am able, giving my mind a "time out" helps me find peace and serenity.

Kelly Klassen said...

Well spoken Caroline! Our mind does what it does not to cause problems but because it is our mind it naturally will think and usually it is not the most positive thoughts in the world.
Focusing on the moment is a great way to live! I just discovered this for myself about 5 years ago and meditation helped me.
As for the question of do we have to struggle, someone once told me that it was a choice we make to struggle or suffer or not and it took me a bit to understand what they meant. I have found that it is true, it is up to me if I suffer or not. "Bad" things can happen and I can choose to suffer though them or work though them, to see the situation as a punishment or a challenge. I love a good challenge but not punishment.
Suffering is a state of mind. Yes life can be challenging but that is when people learn the most and really shine.